Copyright © 2020 Doug Britton. Otherwise your relationships become extremely intense in a negative kind of way sooner or later – lacking love, understanding and mutual respect; and you may not even know why. To be kind to your friends than to be kind to yourself? […], […] Today 8 Steps You Need To Take In Order To Love Yourself […], […] more complete person as well as prepared to face the world, putting your best foot forward. Let’s be honest, the audience was never invested in Mr. Big. Despite today's comments about people being more narcissistic than ever before (think 'selfies' and Facebook status updates), people are also more insecure than ever. Learn about us. God doesn’t want you to go through life saying, “I hate myself.”. Put yourself first. Just before or... Write down all the things you’re thankful for in your life and read them every day before sleep. The more issues you have, the more things bother you about other people in one way or another. Throughout the Bible, we are commanded to love others—without being told to “love ourselves first.” For example: A new command I give you: Love one another. Jesus simply said to love others “as yourself.” He didn’t say to love others after you love yourself. (Scripture verses are from the New International Version, copyright © 1984.) It’s nonsense. When you do, you will see that loving your neighbor means being concerned about other people — seeking the best for them, and helping them in their time of need. Increase the sources of your revenue streams more sustainably. But that’s not what he meant. Looking after yourself better may mean you are more able to look after others too. It is to fully grasp and enjoy God’s love for you. No. It can’t be our sole “calling card” for love, sex, or relationships. Why You Have to Love Yourself First The complex connections between self-esteem and romance. Be happy that you have a new teammate. We need to forgive. The key to fuller happiness is understanding who you are and loving what you are first. If they don’t hate the same thing about themselves as you do, there is usually a friction of values, and your capacity to love that person decreases. Explain your answer. We need to move on. Friends and lovers will add to your enjoyment of your life not subtract from it. Who are you? How do you treat them? Spend time to invest in yourself and find your own happiness. When we understand God’s love, when we deeply know he loves us, we don’t need to focus on loving ourselves. You will simply keep telling yourself it's not enough and that you have to do more. We must hold it in our ability to write beautiful words, or paint striking paintings, or explore creatively that for which we’re passionate. Loving yourself is the hard part…. But you shouldn't give up that easily. Many people think the Bible says they must love themselves before they can love others, but that is not what Jesus said. Because you’re not only afraid that someone you love will have something that you’re lacking, you’re also afraid you may lose them because of that; because you don’t trust in yourself, since you can’t trust yourself if you hate something about yourself. Carrie would’ve been nothing without the company of Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte. If we say we can’t love others until we love ourselves, we are essentially saying Jesus gave us a third commandment. I have heard the laundry list of woes on romance from being afraid to be alone out of fear of never meeting someone to compromising happiness and settling for second best in a relationship. So you don’t like something about yourself. We let them weigh us down; allow their judgement to dictate our confidence, their disappointment to taint our optimism. Must We Always Be Striving For a Better Life? To listen to the full podcast, click on this link: Please subscribe to my youtube channel for educative, informative and entertaining videos and podcast. (Psalm 52:8), The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.” (Jeremiah 31:3), How priceless is your unfailing love! It may motivate you to also start the same process of abolishing that shortcoming, and it should, but that rarely happens; especially if you hate that shortcoming about yourself so much that you don’t have the self-trust and confidence that you can abolish it.